5 TIPS TO BECOMING EVERY MAN'S DREAM

Feeling like all the men on ONLINE are weak? Why can't anybody have a REAL conversation? Is it really all about the HOOKUP? Well it doesn't have to be! Contrary to belief, everybody on here doesn't just want SEX.

What REAL men really want is somebody that is on point, Physically and Mentally. They want somebody that ENJOYS LIFE. Most importantly they want COMPANIONSHIP, either romantically or sexually. So how can you BECOME every man's dream?

1. CHOOSE THE PHOTOS IN YOUR PROFILES WISLY!
If your main photo is a picture of a ass. 9 times out of 10, Your an ASSHOLE! If your main photo is a picture of your genitals, 9 times out of 10, Your a DICK! No REAL man wants to talk to you Sexual Attributes, no matter how round and juicy your azz is. Dick is good, hell, Dick is GREAT, but I like to unwrap my MEAT instead of picking it up after it has been sitting out. Eye Candy Yes... Dream Man, HELL NO! Keep some mystery for Christ Sakes! There's no problem showing it off. That is what they are there for! But if you really want to be on point, BE CREATIVE WITH IT! Put on a nice Tank Top or wear some cute Underwear. Show a little, and let them want MORE. Sometimes a sexy stare into the camera is all they need to hit you up!

2. SHOW SOME DAMN PERSONALITY!
I'm not asking you to write a novel, but let somebody be intrigued by what you say. INTERESTING PEOPLE ARE... INTERESTING. BE ONE. If you really want to be every man's Dream, then talk about your interest and hobbies. Don't have any, then now would be the time to get some. Don't tell your life story, but talking about what you think about life, men, or yourself is always great way to catch a man. HUMOR is always a good way to show off who you are, and there is nothing wrong with being a FLIRT either. Just don't put up "want to fuck"... that just makes you sound DESPERATE!


3. YOU CAN CHAT YOU KNOW!
If I see another message that says "WHAT'S UP" OR "HEY" I'm going to throw this muthafucking computer out the DAMN window! REAL men don't have time for you to say Hello... come correct KICK SOME GAME, state what you really want, get to know the person, ASK QUESTIONS... if you really down with it, get DOWN WITH IT. It's not called CHATTING for nothing! Intelligence and good conversation can go a really long way.

4. DON'T BE THIRSTY!
Don't be asking dudes to have SEX and you guys don't even know each other. Leave that for those THIRSTY brothas that have a HARD time getting some. I know it gets lonely out there in the desert, but bring some LUBE... that will keep you WET until the dude you really want comes along. There is dick and azz everywhere, don't be a scrub, that's a NO NO!

5. LET'S NOT BE A HOE, OK!
Everyone on in your city knows EVERYBODY! We all talk about you guys to all our FRIENDS, and don't think your business won't be on somebody's mouth. Try and eliminate an uncomfortable conversation about how you FUCKED three dudes at one time, but NOT FUCKING three dudes at one time. NOBODY dreams about a man that everyone has HAD-before. Being a HOE is fun for awhile, but when it catches up to you, its a NIGHTMARE! You can be sexy, and still be every man's DREAM!

GOT ANY MORE TIPS?

Sexually Adventurous vs Social Responsibility

[sexy fun or a social no no?]

In a Gay Man's Life, after getting over the guilt from the your family & the dogma from the church, you finally stop listening to others and start doing things for yourself. Your finally on your terms. Your attractive, stylish, and you never looked better.

You go to a party, and everyone is jocking you. You meet some sexy guys, and all you want to do is take them home... and why not, your grown, and there is nothing wrong with being Sexually Adventurous! It is so hot to just take a random guy in the bathroom and just do him right there. What about those threesomes, foursomes...even the orgies, everyone is protected, do your thing! Why not take sexually erotic photos to show off that round ass and huge dick. If you got it, show it! Your Grown & Sexy, and life is all about the adventure, all about experiencing life.

Being Sexually Adventurous is fun right?
Until one day there is a rumor that your a ho, or worse you have HIV.

Have you ever talked to your friends and told them about a hot escapade, only to tell you that your a slut.
Have you ever taken a photo of yourself in a sexual position online, only for someone to think that your easy.
Have you ever been to a sex party, only for people to find out, and say you have a STD.

While you can be as Sexual Adventurous as you want, you also have a Social Responsibility to yourself.

Our world has a stigma on sex, and its not cool. There is nothing wrong with sex, and nothing wrong with experimenting with it. But the truth of the matter is, people will look at you in negative light socially. Sometimes you have to carry yourself respectfully so that people can see past the "sex" and see the great human being that you are.

I have seen so many of my friends, who are Amazing, Intelligent, Motivated men with great careers, just totally get the bad flack from there personal sexual escapades. So where is the happy medium? You want to be a socially responsible person by carrying yourself in a dignified manner, but you want to get in where you fit in as well.

How do you balance the two?

seeing progress...

First I want to say thank you for all the comments left in my last post (from friends and bloggers). It really made me put some things in order in how to deal with my emotions about my father. I had a dream that my father pushed me off a cliff. Deep stuff. This is something that isn't going away easy, and I'm trying not to put so much energy on it. It did help to let it out, since I have never done that before. My next step is I'm going to talk to my mother about it and see if she can help.

In Other News...

So my Dream of having a "Banging Body" is still in progress, and I am happy with my results! When I first started I was 150lbs, had a small gut, and my diet was based off fast food. I got the LL Cool J Platinum Workout Book and The Secret for my birthday to help me motivate myself. I have since been jogging at least twice a week. I have pushed myself to do sit-ups and push-ups daily, and my diet has changed into being a lot more balanced. One week I cut out ALL fried foods out of my diet! Even French Fries! My chest is getting a little more defined, my stomach is now flat, and I can see a "pac" somewhere showing through. I can handle exercise much better. I feel a lot confident in the bed. But I know I can do a lot more, but this is what I look like now...



So now I have 2 months until I get to my goal, and I will pick up the pace in July. It is now Summer Time, and there will be plenty of water parks, nude beaches, and prides to go to, so I need to be ready! Don't tell Fuzzy, but we went running one day, and we are jogging, and doing the exercises in the obstacle, and boy was he out of breath and in pain afterwards, lol. Fuzzy' has a nice body, but if he worked out he would be so on point, it ain't even funny. But it was just interesting to me to see him huffing and puffing and I was ok. He still beat me in the push-up contest though! My old workout partner, Calvin has started going to the gym, but I haven't decided if I want to get a membership yet... maybe at least for the month of July.

So let's see my goal this week is, I'm going to eat at least one bowl of vegetables a day, and only drink water, while making sure I do a lot of upper body work... and continue my diet as is. I need to eat more vegetables, so this should kick start me.

As always if anyone has any advice to get me into "banging body" status, holla at ya boy!

f*ck fathers

It is kinda taken me a lot to write this post, but I have been holding this in for a really long time. Now, I am not one to be an angry or bitter person, so I try hard to put on this "act" to one, stay strong, an two, not let anyone see my weakness. Hate is such a strong word, but I HATE MY FATHER!

My father and mother where high school sweethearts, and were planning on getting married. He was in the army and stationed in North Carolina so seeing her was very diffcult, yet he planned to come see her Thanksgiving. My mother was very excited to see him, especially since she was carrying me at the time.

Thanksgiving comes, and he's a NO SHOW.
But, he promised that he would be there on Christmas. She was sad, but agreed.

Christmas comes, and he finally makes it.
The two discuss getting married, and my father says he can't.
Why she ask?
"Because I am already Married."

Already Married? Since when?
He says since Thanksgiving!

Yes bloggers, my two-timing father ditched my mother and married another woman. Another woman who was having his baby. I am only a few months older then my half sister. My Father would have two other children who's chances he "fucked up." What a waste of semen!



So here I am as kid always wondering, who my father is. My mother gave me chances to see him, but I didn't know how to interact with him. I remember one time staying the night with him in the attic of my grandmother's house, and I got up because I wanted a drink of water. I go to his room, and he is fucking the shit out of this woman. The smell of it all still sticks to my brain, and I hated it. It was just too much to see at a young age, and I didn't know how to take that. I just went back to bed. Everytime I visit my "father's side" of the family, I would avoid trying to see him, leaving it to "hi" and "bye." He never tried to make any other advances to try and be my Dad, I guess we both didn't know how.

I didn't care I didn't have a father, because I loved my mother! As long as I had her, everything was great. I remember one time I asked him for a black color tv with a remote control. He said he would get it for me. Month after month I asked him and still no tv. I never asked for one thing from him in my life, but this! And he NEVER got it for me, always giving me empty promises. That was the day I said, fuck my father! As I got older, and got to know my other Sister and Brother, I saw the hurt he has done to them. The stories, the crying... it hurt me so bad. NOT ONLY WAS HE NOT IN MY LIFE, BUT HE FUCKED UP THE LIVES HE WAS IN! I guess I should be lucky. FUCK FATHERS.



FUCK MY SISTER'S FATHER FOR LEAVING MY MOTHER, ME, AND MY SISTER BECAUSE HE COULDN'T BE A REAL MAN AND DEAL WITH MY SISTER'S MEDICAL CONDITION! FUCK MY MOTHER'S HUSBAND FOR STEALING OVER 1,000 FROM ME FORCING ME TO MOVE OUT ON MY HOUSE! FUCK MY BIOLOGICAL FATHER FOR MAKING ME THINK I BECAME GAY BECAUSE HE WASN'T IN MY LIFE! I WOULD HAVE BEEN GAY EVEN IF YOU WAS THERE, AND YOU STILL WOULD HAVE HATED ME! SO GUESS WHAT, I HATE YOU FOR NOT BEING A REAL MAN! NOT BEING THERE FOR YOUR DAMN KIDS, YOUR WOMEN, AND NOT DOING SHIT WITH YOUR LIFE, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAD MORE ARTISTIC TALENT THEN ME! YOU WAS SUPPOSE TO BETTER ME! YOU DIDN'T DO SHIT, SO GUESS WHAT...

FUCK YOU, AND FUCK EVERY OTHER FATHER THAT DON'T DO SHIT FOR THERE SONS!



Happy Father's Day.

it's official, I'm getting a sidekick!

I have been going back and forth on this decision for months now. So I just sat down and put out the pros and cons on my reasoning, and the pros outweighed the cons...

CONS:
1) I already have a reliable phone that works.
2) Everyone has a Sidekick 3.
3) I have the internet and instant messenger at home.
4) That is a lot of money for a phone.
5) I can save my money for an Xbox 360 or PS3.

PROS:
1) While I love my Razr, it seems very limited to me.
2) I love the way the Sidekick 3 looks, and it makes me happy thinking about it!
3) I will always have access to the internet and friends who text me all the time.
4) I can get a discount from T-Mobile next month.
5) Do I really play games like that? I can have this all the time.

plus...

I can read blogs, check e-mail, and look up information on the spot. I can customize the screens as well as the outside, which I love. I will only have to be spending $5 more then what I pay now monthly... and I get 400 extra minutes. Fuzzy always has these gadgets and makes me jealous. Jay has one, and Dante & Calvin are getting one this year to. I can't afford nor will I switch to ATT for an Iphone!

So next month, I am going to go for it! If anyone has a Sidekick 3 and have any tips, let me know!

dream come true

So Brandon didn't win the Mr. Gay NJ title. He did get first runner up. He was pretty upset, and I was depressed afterwards. I have to admit, everyone said the winner was good, so I can't hate. This just wasn't my friend's time, but he is still amazing in my eyes!

Thanks to him, he made one of my dreams come true! I was able to acheive my dream of dancing in a major show! I killed it! lol. It was great seeing all my friends there cheering us on, and it really felt like we was a group up there on that stage. Man it was a rush! I wasn't even nervous. Sorry I don't have any video of the performance, but I will obtain it one way or another. One Dream Down, a few more to go!

I finally got my digital camera to properly create videos I can edit, so NOW I can finally do the videos I want to do creative wise. Get Ready!

Did I ever say that I am in love with Fuzzy.

I want to gives my congrats to Trent Jackson and Derrick L. Briggs on there recent milestones in there lives. Omar has finally moved in next door, so congrats to my bestfriend as well.

I have to get back to normal life now, so I'll holla back at you guys at the end of the week!