Saturday, January 10, 2009

Can't Sleep...

So its 4am in the morning, Im laying in the bed, a man snuggled up under me, and Im tipsy and can't fall asleep cause my mind is going 95 in a 60 Mile zone!

I usually will just talk to somebody, but yeah, he is knocked out and sick, and all my friends are mostly likely sleep as well.

What is a man to do when he has stuff on his mind? Blog on his sidekick of course! So what is troubling me this morning? I don't know how to put this?

Well I was at this party right? It was the most ghetto party I have ever been to in my life. We went up the hall, and this guy was trying to calm down his friend from fighting. We get up stairs to like 50 and some odd black gay men, women, inbetween, thugs & straights all drinking and smoking all through the sticky floor apartment!

Im not a smoker, so that was just a no go for me, and the vibe was just not right for me, especially since we just came from a really nice birthday party at a nice house a couple of hours ago.

Im here with my guy, holding hands against the wall, and this queeny guy comes up to him and ask MY dude if he will go in the room with him! WHAT! Is he serious??? He then tells the guy (which he knows but not personally, just seen him around) that I was with him, the guy shakes me hand and says that we look cute together... great, right after u want my man, whatever!

I have never had to deal with this before, so this is all new to me. What's bad on my part, was I was a little mad at my dude because the other guy was disrespectful. I know that's not fair, but Iike I said, the vibe of that party just wasn't right for me.

I know that in life, ur man is going to get hit on, either if ya are together or apart, and its something u just have to deal with, but how? Is this an insecurity on my part? He goes above and beyond letting me know that I AM THE ONE FOR HIM, and gives me reassurance, but my mind sometimes does what it wants to think, outside of what's logical!

I never ever been a jealous person, and don't want to start. Is there a solution to this? How do u guys deal with this on both ends?

8 comments:

Joey Bahamas said...

I'm not a jealous person and I'm very easy going so maybe that'll affect my answer...but you really shouldn't be mad at him. He did what he was suppose to do...no overreaction or dramatics...just "no I'm with him". Although it bothers me sometimes when SB is hit on, it's flattering as well because I know other people in the room want my sexy ass nigga. He sometimes wishes I was more jealous...but I think jealousy in the end is a waste of energy. If you're mine, then you're mine...why should I worry or get upset...let the rest of these girls gnaw at the bit, be secure in your relationship.

JB

bLaQ~n~MiLD said...

Get used to it Shawn. That shit is going to happen, trust me. Ya boy handled it right as Joey has stated. No need to cause a scene. Now had dude proceeded, then a harsher response may have been deemed necessary.

~Damnit!

Thaddeus L. Works. said...

SHAWN, YOU GOT WHAT SOMEBODY ELSE WANT. YOU SHOULD NOT WANT WHAT SOMEBODY ELSE DOES NOT WANT. THIS WORLD IS FULL OF PHINE MEN AND AS LONG AS YOU ARE SECURE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP THOSE JUMP OFF QUEENS. DOES NOT HAVE A CHANCE. IT TAKES TWO TO MAKE A THING GO RIGHT. KISS YOUR MAN AND TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE SORRY FOR GETTING MAD AT HIM. HE DID NOT DISRESPECT YOU...THAT OTHER DUDE DID.

Kendal said...

Awww, don't be mad at him...I know how you feel though. It will be okay. I kind of get mad at my dude when stuff like that happens but when the tables turn and I guy tries to get at me, he got mad and I was a little glad he was jealous...it made me feel like he didn't want to lose me...I'm sure both of you are great people and I hope you and him feel better.

Darius T. Williams said...

I think it's simple - if you're fly and confident in your relationship - then you're good. Think about it - you've already said that he goes above and beyond...have confidence in that. If you do - then you're good.

But hey, I also learned never to take advice from a single bitch either...and I'm single - lol.

Love ya to pieces!

kennyking78 said...

Plain and simple--- NOT HIS FAULT!!!

Also, the guy who came up to him and invited him to the room right away is a MESS and a half!!!

Yeah, you don't want to see him get hit on because it is a bit threatening, but his reaction was totally on point.

Mr. Jones said...

You didn't really give us much information regarding how ur boy reacted, so I'm not sure why you're mad at him.

I've met ur boy twice and I can see how he'd get hit on. Your best bet is to either get an uglier boyfriend or keep doing whatever it is you do to make sure he aint even thinking about entertaining those fools.

Cocoa Rican said...

First, let me say that although I'm not a jealous person, I'm possessive as shit...BD knows to stifle any sign of disrespect and I have to accept that he handles it - well. That said, you can't control the fools...once your boy handles his and makes it known that you're his man, there's nothing to do, but look at each other and laugh at the silly 'pressed' bitch pushin' up. Now, when the hookah persists AFTER your man makes his relationship known, then you're within your right to step it up and assert yourself. I'm not condoning violence, but I'm not the one to have a disrespectful person toying with me and my man.