Thursday, December 11, 2008

Happiness Healing!

There has been a lot of things swirling around in my little head. I guess you can say I have been "Mind Voguing" LOL! I have a friend, well a couple of friends that really, really have strong issues about how they feel about being homosexual, issues with dogma, and just there level of comfortably with sexuality. If there is one thing I have learned is that everyone is entitled to think and do whatever they like. It is there freedom of choice, no matter what my opinion is.

What does bother me, is to see that thinking manifest into "unhappiness" not only for themselves, but also when it effects others as well. The super hero in me wants to "save them" but even Jesus can't help those that don't want to help themselves. What I have learned to do is to be empathic to one's situation.Yet, if someone is trying to make a "right" and they go "left", then I'm entitled to tell them to make a quick U turn! LOL.

Jon Stewart had Mike Huckabee on The Daily Show last night and the second half of the appearance focused on marriage equality. You got to love John, because he said something very profound, at least to me!

"Religion is far more of a choice than homosexuality. We protect religion - and talk about a lifestyle choice - that is absolutely a choice. Gay people don't choose to be gay. At what point did you choose not to be gay? ... I think it's a travesty that people have forced someone who is gay to have to make their case."

I mean Wow. I never thought about it that way, and it is so true. Here we are using a religion, most of the time, handed down to us by our parents, and rarely given a choice about, to dictate how we choose to live our lives. There are plenty of times my parents or the decisions of my parents, and even the opinions of my parents dictated what I did, and how I felt, even when it wasn't a choice for myself. Yet this is the thing about being "Awake" and "Sleep Walking"... I no longer have to allow others to do that anymore. I Choose. It was my choice to "accept" that I am who I am, to live a life with the knowledge that I don't have to live in fear. I can choose to be HAPPY, and love and care for people.

There is far more healing to do in the world, then to be caught up in who is a "top or bottom" or do I want a "thug or a Fem Queen?" Does it really matter who is the "Male or Female" in a relationship or if I can pass as "straight" in on the streets or in the church? There is far more healing to do in the world then feel uncomfortable about someone "holding a hand" or "seeing a public kiss" or seeing somebody walk down the aisle! 

The healing has to start with us.
It has to start with YOU.

P.S. I found this link to be very helpful, but it may change the way you think about homosexuality. Some people are afraid of the Truth. Yet, if you are not afraid to be liberated, then Click HERE. This information at one time, changed my view on life forever.


kennyking78 said...

Now this is what I am talking about Shawn!

The healing does begin with us. Though I don't believe we choose to be gay or have feelings for men, I DO believe that we have the choice to be happy or miserable with the cards that have been dealt us.

I love and thank you for this post... you are my hero as well!

Mr. Jones said...

I'm with you on this, Shawn. Fuck a top and a bottom label cus truth be told, if you ain't rolling around and forgetting who is who and what is what in the bedroom, then you prolly aint doing it right.

Anonymous said...

The truth of the matter with people in the GLBT lifestyle that many are GAY and NOT HAPPY. Because deep within their hearts they feel far from God they know that they are in sin and that they are not living right. But God is merciful and desires to transform people into what he has intended them to be. God makes no mistakes, he does not make someone gay through life struggling with sexuality, coming out to parents, being ostracized, broken and shameful. I think in 2009 people need to re-evaluate the gay and unhappy situations. Turning to drugs, food, men, to fill a void ONLY God and Jesus Christ fill.

KB said...

so much to say man-good post ShawnQT! years from now future generations will look back at this sh_t with all this hatred towards us and conclude it was unfair and unjust. before there was a bible, qur'an, torah, etc there were gay men and women living, loving, and making life better for all. the more i live the more i realize how much i don't know-how much more i have to learn and i refuse to base that learning on a book or books that have only been here for a few thousand years (altered, mishandled, and mistranslated). accept who you are and be yourself.

Darius T. Williams said...

Wow...very profound post sir!

Ty said...

Excellent post. It is funny because my pastor just preached about this. We have to make a change in our own lives. No longer allowing others to dictate to us what they believe is true in our lives as LGBT. We need to learn ourselves, accept ourselves, love ourselves and then we can be ourselves.

I have to ditto Mr. Jones. "Fuck a top and a bottom label cus truth be told, if you ain't rolling around and forgetting who is who and what is what in the bedroom, then you prolly aint doing it right."

jerzey_reality said...

It's interesting how people use religion as a basis for bashing homosexuals...but ummm don't the majority of religions preach unconditional love and acceptance

The moment of awakening is a great thing...scary at times but the revelation is def life changing

deonte' k said...

Wonderful post Shawn.... preach my brother ;)

ponoono said...

Great post Shawn!

I gotta disagree with KB though... "before there was a bible, qur'an, torah, etc there were gay men and women living, loving, and making life better for all."

The life expectancy back then was very poor, and if there were all that many gay men and women around none of us would prolly be here today.

fuzzy said...

Im going to say this, and I hope i dont sound confusing saying it. i dont believe you choose to be gay. at the very same time i dont believe you're born gay. i believe it just happens and is a likeness.

think of omar, he hates jelly. you cannot get him to voluntarily eat it. there may be some variety of rare non gushy jelly that he might like on the moon or something, lol but jelly isnt for Omar! there are some straights that will not be gay just because it doesnt tickle their fancy. for the homos the idea of straight activity nauseates them! people like what they like. thats why is called sexual preference because they prefer whatever it is they like.