It seems that for the past couple of weeks, I have been meeting people that have felt comfortable enough to tell me how HIV has effected there lives, either knowing someone that has passed away or them having it themselves. In this day in age, I think all of us has been effected by it. Sure we talk about how the government & health agencies should help in prevention and spreading the word. But how often do we just have a general conversation about it, and how it makes us feel on a social level? I just wanted to open up a dialogue with you guys about my views about it, and maybe you can ask the same questions among your friends.
Disclaimer: I am HIV Negative, but does it matter?
Would you treat me different if I was Positive?
How would you feel if you had HIV?
I think that I would be shocked and sad at first. I would really need a lot of love and support. I think I have been very conscious about my sexual practices. The biggest thing that would beat me up, would be my level of guilt and my carelessness. Everything happens for a reason, but I think it would be a hard process to kinda get past the "its all my fault" phase. Even the most careful and conscious people can get it once. Hopefully I would get enough courage to learn to deal with it, and continue living my life as if it was my last. I would love to talk and help others though.
How would you feel not having HIV?
I am extremely blessed, but can't guarantee that I will always be HIV negative. With every sexual encounter I may have, and the whole 6 month window, you can never be 100% sure you do or you don't have it. Dealing with guys, you always have to ask, and sometimes they say "I don't have it," but they may not even know, so you still have to be careful. So can you really say that your dating someone that is fully negative?
Would I be friends who those who are HIV+?
Of course! People are People! I am not one to judge, and what happens to someone I am sure was a careless mistake. Having a social support is always important! I dont think of anyone less. I think that is important for all of us to open our minds about that, and not stigmatize people.
Would you date someone who is HIV+?
That has always gone through my mind for a really long time, but my answer would be yes. LOVE surpasses all, and if I was positive, I would want someone to see past that and LOVE me just the same. It can be hard, Im sure! But if both parties stay protected, and have open conversations about it, it should be fine. There are so many "hot" sexy things to do then just penetration. Sex should always be about intimacy anyway.
Should a man reveal they are HIV + on a dating website?
I think it depends on the person. I think it is courageous of those who do! But I am pretty firm on not letting my business out like that reagardless. What about other STDs? Should we list those on the site as well, because clearly that is important to. I think overall those conversations should be made in person and BEFORE you have sex with them.
If you was dating someone, when should
be the right time to talk about your HIV status?
I don't think there is a definite answer. Ideally you should talk about it before having sex, or maybe talk about getting tested together, so that way your not singling anyone out. But I guess within the first couple of months of getting to know the person. If I was positive, I would hate to tell someone, and they are really not the one, and they go telling my business all over the place.
If two men are both positive, should they have raw sex?
What two men do in there own bedrooms is up to them. Yet always remember, there are different strands of HIV, and if you get another strand, you may end up worst then you already are. You should just be protected at all times.
If your friend wanted to date someone,
and you know they were HIV+, would you tell your friend?
This is such a sensitive question! Umm... Ok I think that anyone's status should be private, and that person should tell anyone on there own time. The best way to approach it is to ask your friend, "Hey I know you guys have been kicking for awhile, did you guys get tested together or do you know his status?" There you have open up the conversation for them to either think about without fully telling them. Try that a couple more times until the person finds out on there own. You can always go up to the HIV+ friend and kinda ask them, but in the end, it is there relationship, and they have to deal with it on there own time.
If you was HIV+ and you found out the person that gave it to you always knew, but didn't tell you, would you get revenge and run there name through the streets, or run them over on the street, LOL?
Giving someone HIV knowingly is a crime, and they have have laws for that, so there is no point of you getting a criminal record for getting revenge!
Do you think that HIV was created by the government?
I know that Kanye West thinks so, but I don't have enough evidence to say this is true.
Why do you think that the epidemic is so huge in the black gay community?
I think it is because we don't talk about it and we stigmatize those who do. In our society we don't live healthy sexual lives. Everyone thinks it can't happen to them, but it can, and we need to be more mindful of that, even myself.
Do you think that HIV is a curse sent down from GOD for the sin of homosexuality?
NO! Disease is a natural biological occurrence that we inflict on ourselves as human beings. What sense would it make for disease to have a mission for a certain group's actions? Why didn't white people get a disease for the slavery of African Americans? How about the Nazis? Nature is what it is, who is to say that HIV is was created to enhance our immune systems and this is just a natural way of us evolving? There have been other epidemics that we have overcome, and this won't be any different.
Do you think that someone can be cured from HIV medically and spiritually?
The ability and power of one's faith is unbound and so is the design of our bodies. There is even a story of a woman who's immune system is so strong she can fight off the virus on her own! There will be a cure, either through medicine or by GOD, question is, what is the difference between the two?
Tell Me Your Thoughts,
What does HIV mean to you?